Privacy Please!

Now as you know already, we are adults actually just turned 30 years old and the dynamic living with parents is a bit odd... I suppose it may not be for some people, but it is especially odd for me as I have been independent and on my own since I was 15 years old! I have worked since then, provided homes for myself etc. Did not depend on family. It was something that I was very proud of. I always felt a sense of accomplishment knowing that I survived and could take care of myself even at such a young age. It kept me grounded, kept me satisfied with myself.

Having lived on my own for half of my life, and having been independent for this time I got accustomed to my personal freedoms. Namely PRIVACY. Never having to answer to anyone, being able to be free, not having to worry about weather or not someone was just going to barge into my room....

Well needless to say those days are undoubtedly over now. I knew I was going to lose many "freedoms" becoming a new parent, but I also knew that they were going to be replaced with things that are much more fulfilling than anything else imaginable. I was right about that. What I had not expected is what hits me pretty hard....

The unexpected, figuring out that things are really tough to get by with a new baby and low paying jobs, not wanting to raise our baby in a complete dump while I finish school>>> led us here. In Law Territory. And when I say Territory, oh boy do I mean it...

We are paying rent to help the in laws out while we stay here. I will say it is considerably lower than any place we've ever lived. It helps out, and we are able to save money for future endeavors (a home of our own) and it's nice having an extra couple of hands to help out with our son!  But I will say this (sometimes I wish it wasn't so, but i'll talk more about that later)

Today I want to focus on the COMPLETE and utter LACK of PRIVACY!! aaaaah!  Having had privacy for half of my life and all of my complete adult life, I am having a really tough time getting a handle on this.... 

1. I can't go anywhere without questions, and concerns for my son (uuhhgh yuk)
2. Its one thing to ask how i'm doing today, and its a total different thing to ask "what did you do today
Those 2 don't hold a candle to the last issue/annoyance that I have...

***Drum ROll***
3. Mother In Law doesn't know how to knock on our bedroom door!!?? WTF is that about?!

Good thing I can usually tell if she is coming down the hall because I can hear her walking towards our bedroom, and everytime I expect to hear a knock and I do not....
This irks me a great deal. Privacy is a big issue to me, and though I am not participating in any malicious acts that I need to conceal, she needs to be respectful of our personal space...

I am telling you... A lot of what I will blog about are going to be boundary issues.... This lady knows no boundaries... And if she doesn't start to see them soon, i'm afraid i'm going to have to knock her over the head with them :)

Let's just hope it doesn't come to that....  *But yes, this does put me in the red zone*

I suppose it doesn't help much either that when I bring it up to my husband he reply's "well I understand, but there's nothing I can do about it".... Oh it would be a lot sweeter coming from him, because I do not want to have to get ugly, but I will...

I will say one thing though... All of these annoyances I am just continually using to fuel my motivation to finish school, so that we can be set "free" so to speak....


aaaahhhh In the meantime I will continue to blog about it :)

Feel free to post comments or share any insight or words of wisdom any of you might have.

Thanks for reading!... More to come!

Introduction "Economic Collapse"

Hello everyone. I am a new mom and my husband and I have unfortunately been hit by the negative effects of the economy. Having said that, we are part of the statistics of those less fortunate families having to move in with parents... So yup that's my story.... A new mom with a beautiful baby boy having to cohabitat with The InLaws....

Now as if it is not embarrassing enough having to live with your in laws, having to bring your new baby in to the mix, I am also attending college to finally finish my degree in social work. Yeah I am an untraditional student (meaning I didn't follow the the beaten path)

I have created this blog as an outlet and a ventelation tool :)

Also don't be fooled by the Title "MonsterInLaws" They really are good people, but in my short experience married couples should not be living with anyone's parents....